Romance
Some think the definition of romance is the
creation of a mood and, I suppose, in today's world, they're
right to a point. Due to busy lifestyles we are now experiencing
a lot of media pressure about what, exactly, constitutes romance.
There has always been pressure of one kind or another; a romantic
novel, for instance, is all about the fantasy of romance,
but my point is today's pressure is simply more intense. Young
people today are having their noises rubbed in the fantasy,
the illusion, everyday, pretty much all day. But should romance
be reduced to an illusion of fantasy? If I prepare a meal
for my date, open a bottle of wine, put on some breezy jazz,
dim the lights and place a rose on her plate, is that romantic?
In my view no. It is me trying to create the illusion of romance.
Sure, my date will be thrilled I have made the effort, but
should she need to be thrilled? Should not my making an effort
be expected? Love is wonderful. It is feelings bubbling up
and spilling over. Some love gushes and floods and some love
builds gradually like a rising tide, but every love is sincere.
Every love is genuine feeling and genuine care otherwise it
is not love and, probably most important of all, true love
is always unconditional.
Here's my advice: the most romantic exprience
you can offer the person you love is to sincerely express
your feeling and your love. It is those moments when you share
yourself, your deepest feelings, your thoughts, your hopes
and desires that truly constitute romance.
You can express yourself with words or allow
your deepest feelings to twinkle in your eye. You can write
a poem or simply take the love of your life by surprise with
an unexpected kiss.
For me, a true definition of romance is placing
another at the centre of your universe, it is the gentle caress
of your lover's heart, it is holding in your hands the essense
of your soul and handing it as a gift to another....
If love is oneness, then romance is a celebration
of that oneness.
When you are sincerely in love, romance is a
natural by-product. Romance is making each moment special
for the one you love and when you are truly in love the effort
required is effortless... Marinate your love in sincerity
before offing it to another. Sincerity is seriously sexy.
Tim Rees
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