Dating Tips by Tim Rees
I remember clearly my first date, it was the
night I had my first kiss. I remember clearly my nervousness,
my fumbling, my stuttering... What a great night! ;-)
It is easy to look back and reminise... If only
I knew then what I know now... So I'm feeling in generous
mood and wish to share with all you freshly budding lovers
out there a little of my experience...
Firstly, be confident. Easier said than done
and the butterflies and nerves are really all part of the
fun. The butterflies and nervousness never fully go away and
I like that, but be confident, but not big-headed or arrogant.
Confidence is attractive, arrogance is not. If you have asked
someone out on a date, then it is because you wish to get
to know that person better. Listen to them. If you don't find
what they have to say interesting, then they are not the right
person for you. If you have been asked out on a date then
you can be confident the person requesting your company likes
you and, I suspect, if you have accepted, you like that person
too. Relax in that knowledge. Be confident. If someone has
accepted your request it means they find you attractive and
if someone invites you on a date, it means you are attractive
to them.
Now, once you have embarked on your date, listen.
If you are anything like me, butterflies will impede you ability
to listen and nerves will tend to make you talk too much...
He he... Great fun... Cool down and listen. Ask simple questions
enquiring about your date. Make the evening about them. Focus
on learning all you can about them. This will achieve two
things. Firstly, it will stop you babbling incoherently about
yourself the whole date and secondly, it will make your date
feel as if you really care about them, thus making them feel
good about themselves.
In fact, the biggest tip I can offer you is
to make the date all about the person your are dating. Laugh
at their jokes even if you missed the point or didn't find
it funny. Make the date all about them. Their happiness is
all that matters. The greatest aphrodisiac I know of is making
a person feel good about themselves. Sex is guaranteed! Sorry....
so sorry, I shouldn't have lowered the tone like that... But
isn't that what it is all about? It is the biggest lesson
I have learned... It is all about sex at the end of the day...
Which brings me to the next tip: I'm going to
assume the date has gone well and the attraction has increased
now you know each other a little better. Okay, now let him/her
know how much. A kiss is essential and make it passionate.
Leave your date in no doubt you are sexually attracted and
maybe go that next step and let them know you are sexually
aroused. Don't let butterflies, nerves or any other excuse
stop you from leaving your date in no doubt with regard your
sexual intention. It is the key. The best place to really
get to know someone is lying side by side in bed after having
made serious, passionate love...
The keyword in a date should be passion. Don't
be afraid to be passionate. I have never met a person yet
who doesn't respond to genuine passion, which brings me to
another keyword, sincerity. Sincerity is seriously sexy...
Here endeth today's lesson in love... Feel free
to send me an email with any questions...
Tim Rees
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